“And it was so, when Ahijah heard the sound of her feet, as she came in at the door, that he said, Come in, thou wife of Jeroboam; why feignest thou thyself to be another?….” 1 Kings 14:6
In our last post, we started a discussion on Self-acceptance. We emphasize the need to discover who we are and then accept that person. We draw a line between what to accept and what not to accept about ourselves. [Click on this link to read the first part of this article] In today’s post, we will be looking more into some of the benefits of self-acceptance and the dangers of not accepting who we are.
There are numerous benefits of self-acceptance.
- Peace with ourselves: The first is peace with who we are. We will no longer struggle with becoming someone else. It will help to eliminate the ideas that others are better than we are. Therefore, it leaves no room for envy.
- Joy and Dedication to work: The next benefit is Joy and dedication to work. We are happy because we know what we are doing is what we should be doing. We are happy because we have discovered ourselves and our self-doubts have been eliminated. If we love what we do, we naturally want to dedicate more time to it. This will in turn generate some level of focus. Distraction is probable when we are not interested in what we are doing.
- Development: self-development happens through concentrated efforts which come when we focus on our work. Having achieved a level of dedication because of the Joy we derived from our work, then development is unavoidable. Every little effort directed into improving ourselves will help us to develop our capability for maximum capacity.
The dangers of not accepting ourselves are:
- Failure: Rejecting who we are is rejecting our giftings and natural strength. If we decide to function outside the areas of our natural giftings, without the readiness to go the extra mile, such a decision will very likely result in failure and limited success.
- Frustration: Frustration can occur as a result of repeated failure, especially if the person concerned is not aware of his areas of strength.
- Settling for less: Not accepting ourselves can lead to a mediocre lifestyle. After several attempts and repeated failures, some can seem to conclude that they can never be better than they are currently. They might tend to believe that they can never arise above some certain level in life and therefore, they settle for less.
- Limited Achievement: When people settle for less, as a result of not accepting who they are created to be, success is limited. It will probably take a wonder to break the limitation placed on their achievement.
- Lack of Joy and dedication to work: Failure, repeated failure and limited achievement will therefore result in no motivation for the work. The wrongly chosen field will, therefore, no longer brings joy as a result of rejecting ourselves.
Thanks for reading and see you in our next post.